Self-Responsibility
We hear that word bandied around but what does it actually mean? It means taking ownership of your decisions, your words, your actions, and all the consequences that come as a result. It means acknowledging the role you play in both the successes and failures of life. It means understanding that your behaviour and choices […]
The importance of loving yourself
“The fundamental problem that most patients face is the inability to love themselves.” Bernie Siegel MD
I remember reading his book Love, Medicine and Miracles back at the end of the ’80’s and it resonated so deeply with me, something shifted inside.
Women of my generation have been taught to be perfectionists
We were taught that we need to be all things to all people
We were taught that to do something for ourselves,
to think of ourself was selfish … the very worst sin you could commit it seemed
Then you had people screaming that women can have it all
You could have children, be a mother AND have a high powered job
You could do anything and everything a man could do
What happened as a result of those high expectations was a generation of women who exhausted their bodies and their spirits trying to pack in all that they thought they were supposed to do
Be the 1950’s housewife with the perfect home & perfectly behaved children
and at the same time compete with men in the corporate world.
What an unsustainable, insurmountable goal that was!
In order to attempt to juggle all those balls in the air women had to sublimate their own needs to the needs of others.
When that happens our emotions have to shout louder and louder in order to get out attention
and because there is no time or space to focus on ourselves, plus we’ve been taught that to do so is wrong
thoughts and emotions get pushed further and further down
and that’s when the physical symptoms begin
[I read that martyrs experience chronic resentment – that was so me when my children were younger!]
When you look at this very simplified explanation you can see the problems this created,
both in my generation and the generations to follow.
Each generation tries to rebalance the wrongs they felt the previous generation inflicted upon them
I see the same things manifesting in my clients,
each generation having their own set of issues
and most of them say they feel stuck.
At the crux of all of it is the need
to be seen and heard, to be validated and acknowledged
and how quick the turnaround and change begins when that happens!
Focusing on yourself is not selfish,
experiencing pleasure is not selfish,
they are both crucial for vibrant health!
Money is the Root of All Evil …
Did you hear that when you were growing up? Perhaps you heard ….. ‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’, ‘we can’t afford it’, ‘I don’t know how we’re going to pay these bills’, ‘you need money to make money’, ‘you have to work hard to earn money’, ‘people like us don’t have/do that’ Or maybe you […]
Our body is always talking to us?
Sadly, most of us don’t listen. Or we only listen when we are brought to our knees. I admit that even though I have known this for a long time and have been teaching it for the past twenty years I don’t always listen. I certainly haven’t been listening lately How […]
What do you want people to say about you at your funeral?
‘What do you want people to say about you at your funeral?’ is a question I ask my students often. They find it confronting, which it’s meant to be. Once we discuss it for awhile, everyone sharing what they think, I then say, ‘now go out and live your life so that they will say […]
Gratitude is an Attitude
A funny story from a long time ago …
When I first heard about gratitude, years and years ago, I thought
that if I was grateful for what I had in that moment that meant I would be stuck there and never have anything better!
And because that was my belief at the time I didn’t carry out the act of gratitude for many many years.
Definitely not a smart move
I was living in Sydney at the time and wanted desperately to move out of the rat race to somewhere quieter that would feed my soul.
Twenty years ago next month the dream I had held onto for so long came to fruition
and we moved to Kiama, the best decision we ever made!
Before that eventuated I had to sit in the situation I was in at the time and have gratitude for all that I had in my life then and there
I had let go of the belief I’d had such a tight grip on that to be grateful in the moment meant I would be stuck there
So not true!
In fact it was the reverse
Once you begin to have gratitude for what you have in your life then more things start to flow to you
The most important thing is to know what it is you wish to manifest in your life
Most people when asked what they want in their life come up blank
We all have a great long list of all the things we don’t want and nothing on the ‘do want’ list
So what happens is we are focused on the ‘don’t want’ and surprise, surprise that’s what keeps on showing up!!
The lesson here is to have gratitude for everything you have in your life now (just look around you) and focus on what you do want in your life.
Gratitude is a powerful manifestation tool.
TIP: if you have a list of what you don’t want it is easy to flip it to what you do want
📷 by Donald Giannatti on Unsplash
I love Christmas!
I’m not embarrassed to admit it. I love the feeling of Christmas … the decorations, the trees all dressed in their finery, the shops all fitted out for the season, the movies, the songs (I have them playing while I write this), I even collect Santa Clauses, I have them from the places we have […]
Ho’oponopono
You may or may not have heard of Ho’oponopono, here is a very brief explanation.It’s not a religion. There are no teachers, gurus, high priest or middle men. It is simply a prayer from you to the Creator / God. Ho’oponopono is an Hawaiian prayer and roughly translates to make things right or make things […]
Are you having fun?
During a workshop I was a participant in I had a huge revelation . . . I realised that I had stopped having fun! We were taking part in an exercise in pairs and afterwards I noticed that my jaw was aching and that’s when the light bulb hit! It had been a long time […]
Never challenge the Universe!
A word of advice … never challenge the Universe! Never make a statement, either out loud or in your head, like … ‘I’ll be okay cruising into the end of my life with the healing I’ve done on myself’. […]