Money is the Root of All Evil …

Did you hear that when you were growing up?

Perhaps you heard …..

‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’, ‘we can’t afford it’, ‘I don’t know how we’re going to pay these bills’, ‘you need money to make money’, ‘you have to work hard to earn money’, ‘people like us don’t have/do that’

Or maybe you heard – ‘don’t get too big for your boots’, ‘who does she think she is?’, ‘you’ll never amount to anything’ or ‘don’t get too cocky’.

And the one most of us heard, or at least interpreted …… ‘you’ll never be good enough’.

When we are children our parents are gods, we assume everything they say is truth. We take on board every single thing that they say.  Which is why you cover your mouth in horror as you hear your mother’s words (or your father’s) come out of your mouth. After vowing that you would never, ever say that!!!

We store all these throw-away lines, comments and sayings away in our subconscious.

And here’s the fascinating thing … it gets stored in our subconscious as a belief or a programme.

Our subconscious has a job, and its job is to protect us. It is not its job to decide whether there is scientific evidence to prove these sayings. They are stored there unremembered until something comes along to challenge them. Then our subconscious goes into action. It reacts to a belief that is stored in its data base – and in order to keep us safe it will PREVENT us from doing ANYTHING that conflicts with one of the thousands of beliefs is has in storage.

These beliefs that are filed away in your subconscious are what drive you now. No amount of affirmations like ‘I run a successful business’ will work if you have a belief hiding away that says ‘I’m not good enough’.

Could that be the reason that your business is not moving forward in the way you would like?

Have you ever had a great business idea and you do all the practical things to move towards that goal ….

You write a business plan, take it to the bank they think it’s fantastic and lend you the money. You do everything “right’ but ‘something’ just keeps stopping you achieving that goal?

The correct phrase is – the love of money is the root of all evil, which lends a different slant to it. But the correct phrase doesn’t really matter. What matters is what you noticed and absorbed and then tucked away in your memory bank. That is what plays out in your life now, all these years later.

I can have someone sit in the chair opposite me in my clinic/or via zoom. They can relate traumatic events that happened in their lives, they give it a score between 1-10, we do some digging on it and in an hour or less they can retell the story with no emotion at all. Now that is miraculous!!!! When they go back in and check the number has always come right down to a 2 or 1.  If it hasn’t we keep working on it.

I am so honoured to be able to help people reach that level of calm about the trauma in their lives.

People who have suffered depression and anxiety all their lives can learn the tools to turn that around. They become empowered and they then go home and have a positive impact on their family. These same people have spent years and thousands of dollars and were not able to reach that level of freedom.

Many people think that failure is what they’re most afraid of, but we’ve all been there. We have all failed at something.

What most of us are afraid of is success.

What would happen if you succeeded? How would your life change?

For most of you, YOU are the heart of your business. What affects you personally affects your business.

In order for you to succeed you need to be the best you, you can be.

Do you think that you may have some sabotaging beliefs that are holding you back from being your authentic, awesome self? Do you have some beliefs that are preventing you from living the life of your dreams?

  • If you know that your childhood is having a negative impact on your life
  • If you have behaviours that you would like to change
  • If you know that you’re not living the life you want

You now know what to do to turn that around . . . make an appointment with me!


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