I have a confession

I have a confession to make. This week I have been spending time on myself. Oh! Shock horror! Everyone born in the fifties will know that that is the worst thing you could possibly do. That is so selfish. We were brought up to think of other people before ourselves. We were taught to put everyone else’s needs before our own. Then when we became mothers, we were most definitely meant to be last on the list. We had the smallest serving and our meal was usually cold. If visitors arrived you would share the food around to make sure they had some and if there wasn’t enough you would go without. We were most definitely not the ‘me’ generation, the opposite in fact whatever that is.

The first therapy I studied when I first started my life in alternate therapies was massage. While I was studying the other modalities I was seeing paid clients for massage. Over and over I would see women my age that found it very difficult to spend money on themselves. They didn’t value themselves, they didn’t put themselves high enough up their list of priorities. They would save up the money to have a massage and then one of the children would need a pair of shoes and the money would go on that. Keep in mind that this was 20 years ago, the world has changed in the intervening years, the baby boomers are in a very difference space now, both emotionally and financially.

Back to where I was. Focusing on myself. I have had a quiet week this week, just a few clients and a movie night plus a networking lunch yesterday, and I have taken this as a sign that I need to spend this time on me. I have meditated. I have put new sayings and photos on the wall behind my computer. I have visualised. I have eaten food that has nurtured my body, maybe not everything that has gone in my mouth but the majority of it. I have spent time in the garden. I have spent time on my business. I have gained clarity on my life. I have gained clarity on my business. I have gained clarity on where I want my life to be in 10 years. Through all of this I have realised I have been feeling positive and this morning I realised that the negative soundtrack that has run through my head for what seems like forever has gone!! This entire week has been in such contrast to the anger that was boiling up inside me over the weekend (see last post).

 I had a ThetaHealing® session over the phone with a colleague in Sydney. We did some more work on me carrying stuff of my mother’s. Now, I will admit that I thought I had worked on all of my mother issues, I have been at it for years, but here was something that had been hiding away from me with all the work I had done on myself. This morning I had an appointment with the osteopath and she worked on my back which was really jammed up, it now feels much freer as do my arms and wrists.

I have such clarity on how I have manifested everything in my life up to this point. I manifested the pain, the inflammation, the inability to look after myself. (As well as all the good stuff of course)
I was so focused on how dreadful it was to turn 60, on the downside of it all that that is what I manifested. I have had such revelations this last week it has been amazing. So much easier to hear when the subliminal negative track has been erased. Now to press on and manifest a different reality, a more positive one, where sixty is sexy and sensational.


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The importance of loving yourself

“The fundamental problem that most patients face is the inability to love themselves.” Bernie Siegel MD

I remember reading his book Love, Medicine and Miracles back at the end of the ’80’s and it resonated so deeply with me, something shifted inside.

Women of my generation have been taught to be perfectionists

We were taught that we need to be all things to all people

We were taught that to do something for ourselves,

to think of ourself was selfish … the very worst sin you could commit it seemed

Then you had people screaming that women can have it all

You could have children, be a mother AND have a high powered job

You could do anything and everything a man could do

What happened as a result of those high expectations was a generation of women who exhausted their bodies and their spirits trying to pack in all that they thought they were supposed to do

Be the 1950’s housewife with the perfect home & perfectly behaved children
and at the same time compete with men in the corporate world.

What an unsustainable, insurmountable goal that was!

In order to attempt to juggle all those balls in the air women had to sublimate their own needs to the needs of others.

When that happens our emotions have to shout louder and louder in order to get out attention

and because there is no time or space to focus on ourselves, plus we’ve been taught that to do so is wrong
thoughts and emotions get pushed further and further down
and that’s when the physical symptoms begin

[I read that martyrs experience chronic resentment – that was so me when my children were younger!]

When you look at this very simplified explanation you can see the problems this created,

both in my generation and the generations to follow.

Each generation tries to rebalance the wrongs they felt the previous generation inflicted upon them

I see the same things manifesting in my clients,
each generation having their own set of issues
and most of them say they feel stuck.

At the crux of all of it is the need
to be seen and heard, to be validated and acknowledged

and how quick the turnaround and change begins when that happens!

Focusing on yourself is not selfish,
experiencing pleasure is not selfish,
they are both crucial for vibrant health!

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Money is the Root of All Evil …

Did you hear that when you were growing up? Perhaps you heard ….. ‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’, ‘we can’t afford it’, ‘I don’t know how we’re going to pay these bills’, ‘you need money to make money’, ‘you have to work hard to earn

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Our body is always talking to us?

Sadly, most of us don’t listen.   Or we only listen when we are brought to our knees.   I admit that even though I have known this for a long time and have been teaching it for the past twenty years I don’t always

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