2020 is here! A new year, a new decade

A new year, a new decade!

What is this going to mean for you?

Are you just going to carry on doing what you’ve been doing for the last 10 years or are you going to make a decision to grab this new decade with both hands and make your dreams come true?

The decision is yours.

As the saying by Benjamin Franklin confirms, ‘if you fail to plan you are planning to fail.’

What if it’s true, and you have manifested the way the world has treated you up until now?

If you keep doing what you’ve been doing then you’re going to keep getting what you’ve been getting.

There’s another saying which no one can agree who said it, ‘insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.’

But how often have you done that and been gobsmacked when the same result occurred?

Nothing is going to change unless we make it.

I’m having another birthday soon and as the numbers climb, I can see that the sand is pouring faster through that hourglass.

If I want to achieve things then I need to make a start and do them now! 

What is it I really want?

That is the hardest question of all.

We all know what we don’t want, we could fill pages of long lists.

Every time I ask clients, students and workshop participants they just look at me baffled, because they don’t really know. No one has ever asked them.

Most of my clients are women and because of the way they were brought up to put the needs of others before themselves.

Time has moved on and things have changed, society has changed,  so our conscious mind is saying it’s OK to spend this money and this time on myself because when I take time out for me then I can go back into my life and have more energy in my relationships and my work.

But, those unconscious beliefs that were set down when we were children are still running the show.

We can confirm that when we realise how we are sabotaging ourselves from reaching our goals.

This has been coming up for me recently and I have felt as if I’m holding my breath, I’m stuck, I can’t move forward.

Fortunately, because of the tools and techniques, I have learned

I’ve been able to discover this, then I’ve been able to go in and remove those beliefs that are holding me back and change them!

The question is: if you could have whatever you wanted, what would it be?

What is your soul purpose?

What are you here on this planet to achieve?

It’s a very interesting and worthwhile exercise to do.

Maiya 🙂



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The importance of loving yourself

“The fundamental problem that most patients face is the inability to love themselves.” Bernie Siegel MD

I remember reading his book Love, Medicine and Miracles back at the end of the ’80’s and it resonated so deeply with me, something shifted inside.

Women of my generation have been taught to be perfectionists

We were taught that we need to be all things to all people

We were taught that to do something for ourselves,

to think of ourself was selfish … the very worst sin you could commit it seemed

Then you had people screaming that women can have it all

You could have children, be a mother AND have a high powered job

You could do anything and everything a man could do

What happened as a result of those high expectations was a generation of women who exhausted their bodies and their spirits trying to pack in all that they thought they were supposed to do

Be the 1950’s housewife with the perfect home & perfectly behaved children
and at the same time compete with men in the corporate world.

What an unsustainable, insurmountable goal that was!

In order to attempt to juggle all those balls in the air women had to sublimate their own needs to the needs of others.

When that happens our emotions have to shout louder and louder in order to get out attention

and because there is no time or space to focus on ourselves, plus we’ve been taught that to do so is wrong
thoughts and emotions get pushed further and further down
and that’s when the physical symptoms begin

[I read that martyrs experience chronic resentment – that was so me when my children were younger!]

When you look at this very simplified explanation you can see the problems this created,

both in my generation and the generations to follow.

Each generation tries to rebalance the wrongs they felt the previous generation inflicted upon them

I see the same things manifesting in my clients,
each generation having their own set of issues
and most of them say they feel stuck.

At the crux of all of it is the need
to be seen and heard, to be validated and acknowledged

and how quick the turnaround and change begins when that happens!

Focusing on yourself is not selfish,
experiencing pleasure is not selfish,
they are both crucial for vibrant health!

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Money is the Root of All Evil …

Did you hear that when you were growing up? Perhaps you heard ….. ‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’, ‘we can’t afford it’, ‘I don’t know how we’re going to pay these bills’, ‘you need money to make money’, ‘you have to work hard to earn

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Our body is always talking to us?

Sadly, most of us don’t listen.   Or we only listen when we are brought to our knees.   I admit that even though I have known this for a long time and have been teaching it for the past twenty years I don’t always

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